You Are Who You Surround Yourself With?

You Are Who You Surround Yourself With

You know how you always hear that “you are who you surround yourself with?” Well, it’s true. Think about it; the people in your life can make or break you. They are a reflection of who we really are. If we don’t consciously choose to have good people around us, then chances are our friends and family will end up being toxic for us because they’ll only reflect what’s inside.

And that’s not healthy for anyone involved! So be intentional about who you want in your life and build strong relationships with them! It pays off in the long run.

It is easy to feel discouraged when we are surrounded by people who don’t have the same goals, beliefs, or interests as us. When this happens, it’s important to take a step back and examine your situation. It may be time for you to make some new friends!

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Connecting with like-minded individuals will not only help them become better versions of themselves but also help you grow into a better version of yourself too.

Don’t get lost in the shuffle; surround yourself with positive people!

You Are Who You Surround Yourself With?

The theory of “birds of a feather flock together” or the so-called “homophily principle” is an idea that’s been around for quite some time. It suggests that people are more likely to form and maintain relationships with those who share similar characteristics, such as age, race, religion, etc.

The idea that you are the person who you surround yourself with, and that your relationship will be a reflection of the qualities of those closest to you, is not just a theory. The homophily principle has been proven true in many scientific studies conducted over various time periods and cultures all around the world.

People are our biggest influencers

Our personalities are shaped by people as they are the biggest influencers in life. If you are surrounded by people that express positive qualities, then there is a high probability that you will learn from and replicate those same qualities.

The people who surround us matter because they teach us in their own subtle way. You can see it as your subconscious learning through osmosis by mimicking the actions of others without today’s common understanding of the word “mimic.” We follow the same laws of nature that describe why birds flock together.

They are comfortable being themselves around only those they feel comfortable with, and rarely if ever change to accommodate new people in their lives. The ones who do change for anyone new will soon after revert back to their old habits and beliefs because this is what they are used to.

The ones who stay true to themselves are the ones we enjoy being around most and talk about for years after they have left our lives. These people do not need anyone else to validate them nor do they seek approval from others. They just are what they are, and only change if it makes sense in their world.

Surround yourself with people who make you happy and help you grow

It is important to surround yourself with people who contribute to your life in a positive way. No one wants to be around negative people who are constantly complaining about trivial matters and believe the world is out to get them. We all have enough negativity in our lives, so why add more by hanging out with those who never have anything good to say?

It’s important we surround ourselves with people who make us happy for they help us grow as individuals. They are people who make our lives better, for we are more productive when we’re happy and have positive experiences.

It takes time to find the right people, but once you do, cherish those relationships and hold them close. Do not surround yourself with negative people because you don’t need the extra stress in your life. If you don’t have positive people in your life already, then it’s time to find some.

To help you find the right type of people for yourself, answer this question: “Who surrounds me?” Or better yet ask what types of individuals would compliment my personality and how can I become a better person because of them?

You Are Who You Surround Yourself With

Do not spend time with people who bring you down or do not have your best interests at heart

If people you consider friends are bringing you down instead of building you up, then I suggest it’s time to cut those toxic relationships.

It is all about using your social network to better yourself and grow as a person through positive reinforcement only. Avoid negative people at all costs because they will kill your drive and determination every chance they get.

You need good people in your life to help you reach your potential, so don’t let negative people hold you back from achieving your dreams.

If someone is not treating you how they would want to be treated, then do not feel sorry for them and continue on with your life. For there will always be some type of drama involved with people who do not have the qualities that you want in friends.

Think about it, you would not purposely bring down other people in your life and expect them to respect/like you for doing so, so why should they behave any differently?

Constructive criticism is how we become better people, and if someone is constantly tearing others down or using negative language then it is never constructive. All they will ever be able to do for you is try to bring you down with them and keep your mind busy with negativity, therefore keeping the focus off of yourself and what’s important in life.

Make sure to surround yourself with people that challenge you, teach you, and love on you

For if you don’t, then those people are holding you back from becoming a better person and reaching your true potential. Likewise, who is going to be the same for them? So let’s pray that the new acquaintances we make in life will be like-minded individuals with whom our personalities mesh well.

Then someday down the road when it’s time to part ways, we can at least know that our relationships were filled with positivity and growth.

For when you meet these positive people who share similar passions and interests as you do, it makes the world a better place. And in turn, you have more love and admiration for your life too.

But most importantly, they make your life a priority. Because you can have all the material belongings in the world, but if you do not have love and relationships you will forever be lonely inside.

So take your time when meeting new people and choose wisely about who to associate yourself with.

My advice: Be happy for others when they are happy, try to see things from their perspective, and feel their pain when they are down. May our environment be filled with those who lift us up to succeed and not let us fall flat on our face for them to enjoy the show from a distance.

Keep the good times going by always being a good friend – be there for them when they need it most

It’s easy to make a lot of friends when times are good, but what about the hard times? Will they be there for you still? That is how you know who your real friends are. And because “A true friend will stick with you until the end and bail you out.”

Believe me when I say: “there is only one person you come into contact with every day that can either bring you down or make you smile. And it’s the same person every time because if they make you smile, then they are your friend.”

So let’s try to surround ourselves with people who love and care for us like we would want to be loved and cared for.

It may not happen overnight, but I will tell you this: the right people will eventually come into our lives when we make them a priority in return.

And it is all about priorities too because if they make your day and give you that warm feeling inside, then why would you walk away from that? Or why would you let anyone or anything interfere with that?

If they are not a positive addition to your life, then it may be time to move on and hang out with people who are better suited for you.

For we don’t need any unnecessary drama in our lives from bad friends, do we? And if someone disagrees then I say this: “it is better to have someone that loves you, than to have someone that likes your drama.”

So who do you choose? What kind of friend will you be today? Will they maintain the relationship with love and respect like it should be maintained or will they just create more drama within your life?

You will never know where life is taking someone so keep in touch even if it’s just a text message once in a while

“Most people walk through life never knowing what they’ve missed until it’s gone. You should always be grateful for anything that comes your way and thankful for everyone who came along with it.”

No, I’m not saying to go out there and get yourself a friend just for the sake of having one. But if you have even one person to share your happiness with, then you’re winning at life.

So I beg of you: “No matter how bad the situation may be that we are going through in our lives, there are people out there who have it worse and would love to have your friendship.” So try to make friends when times are good and when you meet nice people.

If you have a friend who always looks to find the silver lining in life and tries to put a positive spin on it, then they’re your kind of person. I mean let’s be honest: “Who doesn’t want to surround themselves with happy people?”

So take some time for yourself today (if possible) and sit down and do a little soul searching. Get to know who you are and what your life means to you. Explore the multitude of reasons why you should be happy with yourself and your life. It will make all the difference!


If you surround yourself with people who are happy and optimistic, then your life will be a whole lot better. Sure, it’s easy to make friends when the going is good but sometimes we need that one person in our lives who will stick around no matter what. That kind of friend would never abandon us or let any drama get between them – they’re there for the long haul through thick and thin.

We should always consider making these kinds of relationships a priority in our lives because friendships like this don’t happen often! And if someone disagrees? I say: “it is better to have someone that loves you than likes your drama.”

So keep an eye out for those positive people out there looking for their silver lining because someday soon you might find yours too.

References: You Surround Yourself With People Just Like You—That’s A Problem


I am Adnan- Founder of Tiny Rumi. This blog is an effort to share my journey to live a more satisfying life and to help others find the wisdom to improve their experience.

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